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Dilemma 54 – "Modesty"

Everyone’s into barely wearing clothes these days huh? Not my style. I like to keep the good stuff covered up for the one who matters — Ayesha Curry

The Classy woman still exists in the age of social media that dictates that every piece of skin showing is your most valuable asset. It may get you some likes or lustful eyes. Honestly, how many of these women are marriage material? Let Hollywood be your guide? Maybe if your role model is Audrey Hepburn, whose style is both timeless and modest. I first saw Audrey in the late ’90s, never knew of her, but her style left me amazed, and her sophistication is utterly stunning.

So the world tells us to be more beautiful, erogenous and poised while governing your body by the way we sway our hips, exposing our breasts and rear end deliberately in hopes of manipulating men, arousing them sexually with one single glance. Letting other women or even mothers, tell you to wear seducing outfits in hopes of attracting men. There is much to be said about a woman who can humbly modestly present herself while everything surrounding her in based on how you look. She is bombarded with influences telling her to walk talk look dress and act like a woman with no maker, no guidance, no soul in an ignorant world, a bright light in the darkness! This breed of woman is scarce! But she exists, I am living proof now. If you are a woman that has no shame exposing herself by wearing tight or revealing clothes where your breast, thighs, and even labia (camel toe) can be seen. Please reconsider your spirit and be truthful with yourself about just what you are really doing. Because what we say, do and how we dress affects others, especially those that are younger and more impressionable, all young sisters you should see as your daughters. There is much to be said about a woman that presents yourself in such a way. You have the same body parts every other woman has. A man can quickly get that somewhere else. There is always another female with more to share. What he can’t understand is someone who has that unique personality coupled with the Most High’s character. It is your character that will keep him not your bottom size. If you notice, most women you see with these attributes, have no man with a house full of kids. It is your character that will keep him at the end of the day. Tight jeans, tight dresses, short shorts, and leggings leave nothing to the imagination only reveal the intimate details of your body. These clothing options are the fashion equivalent of too much information. This gratuitous divulgence of assets repels where skin tight clothing or private physical attribute revealers presumably with the hope to entice men. In layman’s terms, you know what you are doing, and the Most High is watching. You will be judged, ladies!

Fashion is sometimes scary or presumptuous. Although many will say that it is a reflection of your overall character, I believe it is indicative of a sinful nature.

To be treated like a lady you must dress like a lady. Mothers teach your daughters to be respectful ladies to cover their bodies which is pleasing in the eyes of the Most High. This photograph is the property of its respective owners.

Ecclesiasticus 26:9-12 KJVA

9 The whoredom of a woman may be known in her haughty(prideful) looks and eyelids.

10 If thy daughter is shameless, keep her in straitly, lest she abuses herself through overmuch liberty.

11 Watch over an impudent eye: and marvel not if she trespass(sin) against thee.

12 She will open her mouth, as a thirsty traveler when he hath found a fountain, and drink of every water near her: by every hedge will she sit down, and open her quiver against every arrow.

The most High did NOT create our sisters to be bad bitches! But contrarily, to be women that fear the most High God and to be ashamed of exposing themselves.

Ecclesiasticus 26:25 KJV

25 A shameless woman shall be counted as a dog, but she that is shamefaced will fear the Lord.

A real woman respects herself, the devaluing that occurs on social media is disturbing. Females with nothing to offer to use their good looks to achieve their agenda, they degrade themselves for attention.

These females that show all their body on social media are whores, plain and simple, us men sure we look but these women we will never take them home to meet the family — Aaron.

Let me reveal to you a hidden truth, just because the typical ass kissing guy likes your looks through these social media or in real life, doesn’t mean that he respects it. There’s nothing honorable about 1,000 likes from flock perverts who are staring at your ass, breast, thighs and pretty faces entirely made up; imagining can they get you home and into their beds. You’re no longer a woman in their eyes, you’re a whore, a thot, a piece of meat or a vain imagination in the mind of a whoremonger. You want to be sexy and feel beautiful, I get it. But being respected and loved should mean more. Beauty is in modesty, and a real man will never truly love a woman he can’t appreciate. You can accomplish much more with a quality man using your brain, not your vagina. “Don’t believe the likes.” God-fearing men are leaders, they don’t chase booty.  A woman doesn’t need to show you her body to prove she’s a woman. Doesn’t need to walk around half-dressed to attract your attention. Doesn’t need to sleep with you to show her love. Doesn’t need to be loud for you to listen to her voice. Doesn’t need to fight you to reveal her strength. Doesn’t need to argue to prove her education. Doesn’t need to put you down to lift herself up. Doesn’t need to say a word to prove that she’s a woman, but most importantly, a real woman doesn’t require you unbuttoning her shirt to get to her heart. She doesn’t need to open her legs to get appreciation. She does need to drive into that bible like her life depends on it, and her king will come.

Examples of “Modest Dressing”

Covered in a lady-like manner, loose-fitting,  leaving your curves for your husband, not inspiring lust.

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The Bible even warns us of being haughty, arrogant, or narcissistic in the pursuit of physical beauty

– Isaiah 3:16-24 KJV –  “Moreover the Lord saith ,Because of the daughters of Zion are haughty, and walk with stretched forth necks and wanton necks and wandering eyes, walking and mincing as they go, and make a tinkling with their feet; Therefore the Lord will smite with a scab the crown of the head of the daughters of Zion, and the Lord will discover their secret parts….In that day the Lord will take away the bravery of their tinkling ornaments about their feet, and their cauls, and their round tires like the moon, the chains, and the bracelets and the mufflers, the bonnets, and the ornaments.

Mankind looks at the outer appearance, as proven in the bible in the depiction of the appointing of a new king of Israel. But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I refused him: for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the HEART. 1 Samuel 16:7 (KJV)

Examples of immodest dressings:

Sensual attire exaggerating your cleavage, tightly fitting leaving nothing to the imagination.

All photographs are the property of their respective owners.

The world entices you with the lure of brand names, especially those high-end designer logos like Louis Vuitton and Hermes. It’s not only that the more you care about impressing other people with your appearance, the more likely you will overspend. In fact, the more focused you are on your own thoughts, feelings, and impressions you make on others, the more you’ll seek outwardly-recognizable status symbols like handbags and overpriced clothing. Being vain is beyond just about impressing others. More importantly, about looking kind to others and pleasing the Most High. It’s a natural high. Social comparison theory, initially proposed by social psychologist Leon Festinger in 1954, centers on the belief that there is a drive within individuals to gain accurate self-evaluations. The theory explains how individuals evaluate their own opinions and abilities by comparing themselves to others to reduce uncertainty in these domains and learn how to define the self. Following the initial theory, research began to focus on social comparison as a way of self-enhancement, introducing the concepts of downward and upward comparisons and expanding the motivations of social comparisons. Downward social comparison is a great coping process because it allows you to view a bad situation by looking at others who are worse off than you (more impoverished, less attractive, more stressed) and concluding that things aren’t really so bad. Upward social comparison can cause you to berate yourself unnecessarily because you feel that you’re being outdone by your neighbors, comrades, family, co-workers, and Instagram-youtube-facebook friends. Your desire to impress people that could care less about, but not realizing that this disorder can promote psychological disorders.

If women love to vitiate themselves for attention, just imagine what they’ll do for money. When you present yourself as an erotic entity to a man, of course, that’s how his perception of you will be.  As a woman, you possess the exact same anatomy as every other woman does. There will always be someone else with a better body.  Cajole him with your intellect and virtue. Keep your legs closed, and you will be blessed with the quality man you seek.

You could be like Judith, Queen Esther, Deborah, Sarah, Susanna…. Our matriarchs of the Bible, effective representation of women that loved the Most High in action, words, and deeds. In today’s society, everyone is looking for someone to worship and to follow. Unfortunately, there is a lack of role models in today’s society.  Unfortunately, most of the women that man drools other today are witches like most celebrity women that can’t compare to the spiritual sisters of the Bible in looks or deeds. Beauty is more than your outer trapping, it is your character that resembles that of the Most High in action and acts.

Favor is deceitful, and beauty is VAIN: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. – Proverbs 31:30 KJV

REPENT!



 The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

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Photo of Denise taken in 1981 is used by permission and copyright of photographer Steve Landis. 
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